As you will have gathered from my last post, I have just got married. I am now offically loved up and rather tired. It’s all good.

My best man was my friend A  – he was my flat mate at Uni. When we first met I’d just transistioned, literally for a few days. I don’t remember if he ever met me as a woman. Anyway, we were both definately Queer. We went to gay clubs, we went to LGB Society at Uni. (I added a T on the end eventually). I found it difficult to make new friends when I was obviously transisioning – in fact I think he was the only person who could see through the  transsexual bit to the person bit.

Then legally, neither of us could get married to people of our prefered gender. I couldn’t change my birth certificate so couldn’t marry a woman, he couldn’t marry a man. Ironicaly we realised that he would have got a larger student loan if he married me, which we could have legally done- that way the means test would have been my income and not his parents. My parents were pretty poor so I already got the maximum loan. But we both felt totally repulsed by the idea.

Anyway yes, I was sharing a flat with A when I first met my lovely girlfriend-now-wife and he was very tolerant of our – ‘we’re both awake: must shag’ phase. I’m sure he overheard more than he would have cared to. Mind you he wasn’t a vestal virgin either, and sometimes we just turned the  music up and pretended that the walls were thicker.

So time passed and the law changed. I was able to change my birth certificate, which I did in 2005. See my posts about that time here and here. The law on ‘Civil Partnerships’ was passed, and he was able to get a Civil Partnership. But it’s not a wedding. It’s got all the same rights, but it’s not called a wedding. It’s called a civil partnership.

That’s because if he could marry his partner. It would demean the institution of marriage. Of course it would..

But really if you think that A marrying his partner would demean the institution of marriage. Then don’t you think that me being a girl, having a masectomy, taking some hormones, changing my birth certificate and getting married also demeans it?

Anyway it just seems silly that I can get married and he can’t.